For a woman, being sexy is something we grow up longing to be. We buy push up bras, pucker-up lip gloss, and make our hair and heals bigger and higher than imaginable. And although it does feel good to turn a couple of heads from time to time, is that truly what a long term appeal is about? Looks fade, so how do we continue to be sexy?
Over the years, society has portrayed an image of what sexy should look like, act like, etc. The way we have always thought is that sexy includes a certain weight limit, facial structure, and sexy is usually pretty quiet with a continuous seductive look that is kind of unnatural. But recently, actually, while watching the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show, I realized something- being sexy is one simple thing. It's confidence. Those women are absolutely gorgeous, no doubt, but what takes them over the top is knowing how beautiful they are. They walk down the run way like they own it, and that's what it's all about. Sexy is owning wherever you are, and demanding presence as you walk in a room just by your confidence.
As we grow up, and mature, sexy becomes truly just a way that you carry yourself. It isn't about how seductive or physically beautiful you are, how old you are, what size jeans you wear, or how long your legs are- it's confidence and it is apologetically being yourself. Sexy is not giving a damn at having a sense of humor, standing up for what you believe in, and sexy sure as hell never settles for anything less than the best company. It always continues to better itself. Not only that, doing something for yourself is sexy. Taking up a hobby, eating at your favorite restaurant alone, being independent, starting a tradition or something great with your friends or city, something that ultimately makes you feel happy. Personally, I am taking piano lessons again, some might find that nerdy or boring but I think it's pretty fantastic.
So when you meet new people, go around town, hang out with friends, be freaking confident! (Reminder: this is not to be confused with being boastful or cocky, there is a very fine line between being attractive and confident, and obnoxiously bragging to compensate insecurity.) Ultimately, believing in your self worth is the most attractive thing imaginable to another human being. When you go out there and project confidence, sexy will quickly follow. So the real secret to being sexy? It's just absolutely knowing that you are.
As the new year approaches, I challenge you to bring sexy back in 2014. And bring it back without a damn doubt in your mind.
XOXO
Never let a man hold anything over you besides an umbrella.
I want the world in my hands.
"I was raised up to be admired, to be noticed." -Lorde
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