I have been single now for a while, and for me this is a major change. I enjoy being a girlfriend, I am good at being in a relationship, and the dating scene makes me want to become a lesbian like, yesterday. I have dated guys here and there, gone on dates, whatever., and all of them seem to be missing one large quality, whether it be faith, their drive, loyalty, commitment, humor, etc. For a while, part of me was wondering if my standards were too high. I wondered if I waiting for a white knight that is so great he might be invisible.
Recently, I hung out with a guy who I thought could be pretty close to perfect. However, he showed his true colors, which were not appealing, and when things fell apart called me a "prune." Yes, a prune, not prude, prune..he was foreign. Anyways, offended and confused, I did not know how to take a comment like that. ONE week later, I had a certain something pushing me to go to church. During the sermon we were going through John and reading a chapter with the word prune. Ironic enough, the pastor then went into detail in front of the congregation, that the name Kathryn, my name, is derived from the word prune, because B.C. they used it in terms of clean or pure. Therefore, Kathryn means pure. I found that hilarious yet astounding that God pointed that out to me to comfort my heart and my confusion. I also, at that moment, took that comment he said that hurt me and realized that I am damn proud to be a good girl, or a prune, if you will. No, I am not an angel, I have so much to improve in my life, but my morals, and standards on how a person, especially a man, should treat me are very high, and in this day and age, that's a little unique, unfortunately. So, if someone wants to call me a prune again, I would say thank you, because I am so very happy to be one. And whether that means that I am alone for a longer time than if I did not have high standards on the way that I am treated, then so be it. I know that the people in my life will be amazing and top notch because I have never settled for bullshit company. The whole point of this is, I hope that you too will not let any person treat you any way but their best, especially a guy you are dating, and that when it's necessary you will stand up for yourself. Don't be afraid to be a woman of integrity in this world we live in. You may get called stupid names, such as a prune (like wtf?), and may occasionally have people walk away, but in the end, they weren't worth your time or attention.
In conclusion, my answer to my own question is, no, my standards aren't too high. If you are treating someone the way you expect to be treated, then hold them too it. Be proud of your integrity, and stand by where you need to draw the line for your own happiness.
Remember: just because a man desires you, does NOT mean that he values you, it's a hard concept to swallow, but we all need to take big gulp.
It's not hard to make decisions once you know what your values are. - Roy E. Disney
Don't look back, you're not going that way.
There is only one way to avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. -Aristotle
You teach people how to treat you, by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.
Love me tender...or else.
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